Dani asked if we ever thought of having more kids. The answer to this is yes and no. When we first discussed having kids, and even up to the birth of our twins, we were set on having 3 kids. I was a big supporter of this idea after our kids were born, specifically because I really wanted to experience giving birth vaginally, since mine were born via c-section. We didn't really discuss it after they were born, until we received the paperwork from our cryobank discussing the continuation of storing our remaining 3 vials. The babies were only about 10 months old at that time and we had no plans to try again very soon, plus the cost was a lot more than we could afford at that time. It was a very hard decision to make, but we ultimately decided to let them go.
When our kids were about 4 or 5, talks began again about whether we should try for that 3rd child. We were very worried about the chances of finding ourselves pregnant with more than one again, and 4 (or more!) children was not something we desired. And with the kids getting ready to start school, there was the added expense of school uniforms and supplies that kept the financial side of the equation very much at the forefront of the discussion.
The next, and last, time it seriously came up was about 2 or 3 years ago. Shell brought it up and seemed to really want to revisit the idea. She had a lot of guilt and regret about the first year of their lives while she worked 2 jobs and was either at work or sleeping most of the time. She felt that she missed out on a lot and thought if we had another that she could participate in that stuff. I was the roadblock this time. Our kids were now about 10 years old, and we had already bought this house, with only 3 bedrooms. And the kids' rooms are very small. We certainly couldn't afford to buy a bigger house, and I felt very strongly agains making one of our kids share a room with a new brother or sister. And I couldn't help but think that our kids would be graduating high school in 7 or 8 years and then we could focus on us. I didn't really want to start over again. We discussed it for about 6 or 7 months with each of us arguing our feelings on the matter. Obviously, I won. Within the last year, Shell has mentioned a few times that she's glad I didn't let her have her way as the way the economy has turned, we would be struggling even more with another person to feed and care for.
So yes, we've thought about it and discussed it over the years, but in the end our two are perfect for us. Three may have happened if we had started with one, but two at once definitely changed our perspective.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Saturday Evening Post
Today's post is brought to you by:
I worked all day today.
I came home and then left almost immediately to go track down Toy Story 3 at a Red Box that I could use our free code at.
Came home again and sat in front of the computer for 3 hours to whip out my history assignment.
It's now 6:30 and we're going to make dinner so that we can all snuggle up together and watch Toy Story 3 before midnight.
Happy Saturday!
I worked all day today.
I came home and then left almost immediately to go track down Toy Story 3 at a Red Box that I could use our free code at.
Came home again and sat in front of the computer for 3 hours to whip out my history assignment.
It's now 6:30 and we're going to make dinner so that we can all snuggle up together and watch Toy Story 3 before midnight.
Happy Saturday!
Friday, November 12, 2010
Date Nights
Wow, thanks for the questions everyone! I did, however get a question that I don't necessarily mind answering, but I would prefer to know who asked it. It was asked from Anonymous, so if this was you please let me know and I'll answer.
Moving on... Heidi asked "what is the very best date night the two of you have had".
This really made me think and then feel a little sad, because there are not really all that many "date nights" in our time together. There are very few people we've ever left our kids with and when we do impose on them it's usually just to have dinner and/or see a movie. Or we go to the gay bar downtown and have drinks and just chill until the bar closes and we go home. They are good times and it's always nice to have uninterrupted time to focus on each other, but often we'd rather save the money and just stay home and watch movies together. That said, there has been one evening that stands out.
Most likely due to the fact that we don't take much time out for us, my amazing wife planned a night out for us as a complete surprise to me. A year or so ago, I arrived home on a Friday to find that Shell's car wasn't in the garage and no one was home. This was very out of the ordinary, so I checked on the kitchen table where notes often are left. I found one there that said "Go upstairs". At first I thought that she got someone to watch the kids and she'd be up there looking sexy and waiting for me... Until I remembered that her car was gone so she couldn't be there. When I got upstairs, there was a bag on the bed with another note on top that said "Put this on. You will receive a text at 6:00 with further instructions." In the bag was a pair of panties, black sandals, a black bra, and a tunic type dress. I had about 10 minutes until 6, so I changed into the outfit. The dress was VERY short and quite low cut, but it made me feel kind of sexy wearing it. I tried not to think too much about the sandals as I wasn't too sure about leaving the house in that outfit. At 6:00 her best friend called. My wife is a horrible texter and realized after the fact that what needed to be relayed would be too much and enlisted Dana to help. The first thing I said to her was "I don't have to leave the house right?" to which she told me she couldn't answer any questions or say more than she was told to. In a dresser drawer were directions to where I was supposed to go next and if I needed any help finding it (she wouldn't tell me what "it" was) she could help me with directions only, but regardless I was supposed to text Shell when I got there. I asked her if she had my kids and she said that my parents had them. I told that I was wearing a completely inappropriate dress and she asked me if I wanted her to tell Shell I wasn't going. No, I said, I'll figure it out somehow.
Not being familiar with the area I was directed to go, I just got in the car and drove. There was now a part of me hoping that I wouldn't have to get out of the car once there, but it was fading. The directions took me to a super cute new hotel which was a very exciting prospect and I sent the "I'm here, now what?" text to my wife. The only response was a room number. I panicked then, not confident enough to walk through the parking lot and into the hotel in such a revealing outfit. I sat in the car for probably 5 minutes trying to get up the courage to go in. In the meantime, Dana had called her and told her that I had mentioned being nervous about the dress, so Dana called me just as I was about to call it off and said that there was a back entrance I could use. So I sucked it up and walked to the door she directed me to, only to find it locked. My heart sank. I called Dana back and told her it was locked and she said she would call Shell to come open it for me.
I know this sounds childish, but even getting out of the car took a leap of faith I'd never known I had before. That dress was very sexy, but I felt that it didn't belong on a person of my size without some jeans or at least leggings underneath. I had nothing but a bra and panties on under it and felt very self-conscious.
So, I'm still standing at the back door when my phone rings. As soon as I saw it was Shell's cell I breathed in and for whatever reason looked up. And 3 floors up, I could see her standing there looking at me through the window. She was smiling and she looked HOT! Jeans, button-up dress shirt & tie.. My heart started beating faster and I knew I could do it. I answered and I said "I'm on my way". She asked if I was okay and I said as long as you stay there I will be. I kept my eye on her until I got to the main entrance and walked in. I didn't make eye contact with anyone and speed walked to the elevator which was empty. Of course, just before the doors closed a woman got in with me. She stood right inside the doors and got out at the next floor without saying a word. When the doors opened on the 3rd floor, Shell was there and the look on her face made me see that I'd made the right choice.
We did go to dinner later and she had brought a more comfortable change of clothes for me to wear to the restaurant. There was an incredible view out the windows of our room which had a very cool design. There was a huge shower with 2 showerheads and a very comfortable king sized bed. I won't share the details of what happened the rest of the night or the next morning, but the whole experience was incredible and memorable from the moment I got home and found the first note to the moment we picked up our kids from my parents. I'm not sure how I'll ever top it.
Moving on... Heidi asked "what is the very best date night the two of you have had".
This really made me think and then feel a little sad, because there are not really all that many "date nights" in our time together. There are very few people we've ever left our kids with and when we do impose on them it's usually just to have dinner and/or see a movie. Or we go to the gay bar downtown and have drinks and just chill until the bar closes and we go home. They are good times and it's always nice to have uninterrupted time to focus on each other, but often we'd rather save the money and just stay home and watch movies together. That said, there has been one evening that stands out.
Most likely due to the fact that we don't take much time out for us, my amazing wife planned a night out for us as a complete surprise to me. A year or so ago, I arrived home on a Friday to find that Shell's car wasn't in the garage and no one was home. This was very out of the ordinary, so I checked on the kitchen table where notes often are left. I found one there that said "Go upstairs". At first I thought that she got someone to watch the kids and she'd be up there looking sexy and waiting for me... Until I remembered that her car was gone so she couldn't be there. When I got upstairs, there was a bag on the bed with another note on top that said "Put this on. You will receive a text at 6:00 with further instructions." In the bag was a pair of panties, black sandals, a black bra, and a tunic type dress. I had about 10 minutes until 6, so I changed into the outfit. The dress was VERY short and quite low cut, but it made me feel kind of sexy wearing it. I tried not to think too much about the sandals as I wasn't too sure about leaving the house in that outfit. At 6:00 her best friend called. My wife is a horrible texter and realized after the fact that what needed to be relayed would be too much and enlisted Dana to help. The first thing I said to her was "I don't have to leave the house right?" to which she told me she couldn't answer any questions or say more than she was told to. In a dresser drawer were directions to where I was supposed to go next and if I needed any help finding it (she wouldn't tell me what "it" was) she could help me with directions only, but regardless I was supposed to text Shell when I got there. I asked her if she had my kids and she said that my parents had them. I told that I was wearing a completely inappropriate dress and she asked me if I wanted her to tell Shell I wasn't going. No, I said, I'll figure it out somehow.
Not being familiar with the area I was directed to go, I just got in the car and drove. There was now a part of me hoping that I wouldn't have to get out of the car once there, but it was fading. The directions took me to a super cute new hotel which was a very exciting prospect and I sent the "I'm here, now what?" text to my wife. The only response was a room number. I panicked then, not confident enough to walk through the parking lot and into the hotel in such a revealing outfit. I sat in the car for probably 5 minutes trying to get up the courage to go in. In the meantime, Dana had called her and told her that I had mentioned being nervous about the dress, so Dana called me just as I was about to call it off and said that there was a back entrance I could use. So I sucked it up and walked to the door she directed me to, only to find it locked. My heart sank. I called Dana back and told her it was locked and she said she would call Shell to come open it for me.
I know this sounds childish, but even getting out of the car took a leap of faith I'd never known I had before. That dress was very sexy, but I felt that it didn't belong on a person of my size without some jeans or at least leggings underneath. I had nothing but a bra and panties on under it and felt very self-conscious.
So, I'm still standing at the back door when my phone rings. As soon as I saw it was Shell's cell I breathed in and for whatever reason looked up. And 3 floors up, I could see her standing there looking at me through the window. She was smiling and she looked HOT! Jeans, button-up dress shirt & tie.. My heart started beating faster and I knew I could do it. I answered and I said "I'm on my way". She asked if I was okay and I said as long as you stay there I will be. I kept my eye on her until I got to the main entrance and walked in. I didn't make eye contact with anyone and speed walked to the elevator which was empty. Of course, just before the doors closed a woman got in with me. She stood right inside the doors and got out at the next floor without saying a word. When the doors opened on the 3rd floor, Shell was there and the look on her face made me see that I'd made the right choice.
We did go to dinner later and she had brought a more comfortable change of clothes for me to wear to the restaurant. There was an incredible view out the windows of our room which had a very cool design. There was a huge shower with 2 showerheads and a very comfortable king sized bed. I won't share the details of what happened the rest of the night or the next morning, but the whole experience was incredible and memorable from the moment I got home and found the first note to the moment we picked up our kids from my parents. I'm not sure how I'll ever top it.
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Road to Motherhood
Ok, answering questions is kind of fun!
Stacy asked: What's your road to motherhood story? I have to admit, I looked back at my pregnancy journal for some of this.
We were really lucky. We made the decision to try in April '97, but had no idea where to start. I called customer service for Kaiser (my insurance) and they didn't know either, but suggested we start with an appointment at an OB/GYN. We saw that Dr. on 4/30 and he referred us to the Reproductive Endocrinology department. We had to wait until 6/11 for our appointment with them. Our consultation was awesome and we had blood drawn at that time with the instruction to pick a donor so when my next period started we'd be ready to go. Unfortunately, the blood tests revealed that I had no Rubella antibodies and would need to get the vaccination before moving forward. And then we would have to wait 3 months after the vaccination before inseminating.
The good part was that during those 3 months, we went through all the motions. I took Clomid and had all the blood drawn to track everything so we were in a great position to start for real. On 10/19 I had my first IUI and got my period 2 days before the test date. We did our second IUI on 11/18. Two weeks and one day later (12/3), I was too afraid to call for the test. I was SURE that I would get my blood drawn and my period would come. The next day came with no blood, so I called. Did the blood draw, went home and waited. Then I got the call that I was pregnant. It took two tries. We were very lucky. I didn't realize how lucky however until I started following all these blogs a few years ago. And now, lucky just doesn't cover it good enough.
I had my first ultrasound on 12/17 and that's when we found out that there were two babies on the way. The day before that ultrasound the morning (all day) sickness started and it didn't stop until about my 14th week. I ended up losing about 15 pounds during that time and then everything settled down. At about 7 months, my OB noticed that I was having contractions during a routine appointment, so she sent me to the hospital. They got the contractions under control with terbutaline, which I was sent home with to take regularly. I was already scheduled for a c-section 12 days before my due date because Baby A (my son) was breech and Baby B (my daughter) was laying transverse above him and they weren't moving. When they examined me before my surgery, I wasn't dilated at all. The terbutaline must have done the job, because those babies had no intention of leaving any time soon. My son was born first and weighed 5lbs 14oz with his sister following 2 minutes later at 6lbs 3oz.
Stacy asked: What's your road to motherhood story? I have to admit, I looked back at my pregnancy journal for some of this.
We were really lucky. We made the decision to try in April '97, but had no idea where to start. I called customer service for Kaiser (my insurance) and they didn't know either, but suggested we start with an appointment at an OB/GYN. We saw that Dr. on 4/30 and he referred us to the Reproductive Endocrinology department. We had to wait until 6/11 for our appointment with them. Our consultation was awesome and we had blood drawn at that time with the instruction to pick a donor so when my next period started we'd be ready to go. Unfortunately, the blood tests revealed that I had no Rubella antibodies and would need to get the vaccination before moving forward. And then we would have to wait 3 months after the vaccination before inseminating.
The good part was that during those 3 months, we went through all the motions. I took Clomid and had all the blood drawn to track everything so we were in a great position to start for real. On 10/19 I had my first IUI and got my period 2 days before the test date. We did our second IUI on 11/18. Two weeks and one day later (12/3), I was too afraid to call for the test. I was SURE that I would get my blood drawn and my period would come. The next day came with no blood, so I called. Did the blood draw, went home and waited. Then I got the call that I was pregnant. It took two tries. We were very lucky. I didn't realize how lucky however until I started following all these blogs a few years ago. And now, lucky just doesn't cover it good enough.
I had my first ultrasound on 12/17 and that's when we found out that there were two babies on the way. The day before that ultrasound the morning (all day) sickness started and it didn't stop until about my 14th week. I ended up losing about 15 pounds during that time and then everything settled down. At about 7 months, my OB noticed that I was having contractions during a routine appointment, so she sent me to the hospital. They got the contractions under control with terbutaline, which I was sent home with to take regularly. I was already scheduled for a c-section 12 days before my due date because Baby A (my son) was breech and Baby B (my daughter) was laying transverse above him and they weren't moving. When they examined me before my surgery, I wasn't dilated at all. The terbutaline must have done the job, because those babies had no intention of leaving any time soon. My son was born first and weighed 5lbs 14oz with his sister following 2 minutes later at 6lbs 3oz.
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Alphabet Meme
I saw this quite a long time ago on someone's blog and put it aside for a rainy day. Well, it's starting to snow and is supposed to continue for some time. Sounds like a good time to me!
A.
Age: 36
Annoyance: blissful ignorance
Allergic: maybe. windy days do a number on my sinuses
Animal: I love dogs
Actor: Johnny Depp/ Halle Berry
B
Beer: gross. I've NEVER tasted a beer that I enjoyed.
Best Friend: Eric. It's been 21 years that we've been friends. That's a lot of life we've been through with each other!
Best feeling in the world: snuggling with my wife and kids watching a movie
Best weather: the turning of the season just as the summer temps start to come down but before fall's cold nights start. Highs in the 80's are perfect
Been in love? fiercely
Been bitched out? oh yeah
Been on stage? yep. Choir concerts, talent show, singing solo.
Believe in life on other planets? I do believe there is "life" on other planets. I'm not so sure about that life manifesting in the form of aliens.
Believe in miracles? no
Believe in magic? somewhat
Believe in God? no
Believe in Satan? no
Believe in ghosts? yes
C
Car: I have an '04 Nissan Sentra.
Candy: sometimes, but it must be chocolate or I'm probably not very interested
Color: many shades of green
Cried in school? I don't remember
Chinese or Mexican food? Seriously, these are my two favorite types of food. I can't pick just one. I'd totally eat egg rolls and tacos in the same meal if I could...
Cake or pie? pie. the only kinds of cake I like are ice cream cakes and boston cream pie, which is technically cake.
Countries to visit: I'd love to see Australia for me, and I'd love to take Shell to France.
D
Day or night? Hmm, I'm more awake and productive during the day, but I do enjoy nighttime activities...
Dream vehicle: I don't dream about vehicles.
Dance in the rain? I would, but I don't think I have.
Dance in the middle of the street? I'm sure I haven't done this.
E
Eggs? Oh yes, I like eggs in many forms, but NEVER raw!
Eyes: I'm a fan of eyes. If the question is the color of eyes, I don't have a preference.
Everyone has a past.
Ever failed a class? yes, second semester of Algebra II. I was so lost.
F
First crush: my neighbor
First thought waking up: should I hit snooze?
Food: I'm quite the fan.
G
Greatest fear: outliving my kids
Gum: sugarless
Get along with parents? usually, but not on speaking terms currently with my mom
Good luck charms: I don't believe in them
H
Hair color: natural is brown, but it's colored with blonde and light brown righ now
Height: 5'7 1/2"
Happy? mostly
Holidays? I like my birthday
Health freak? sometimes I wish I was because I am far from it in reality
I
Ice cream: Oh god yes! I LOVE ice cream. Mocha Almond Fudge is my favorite!
Instrument: Can't play any
J
Jewelry: I wear the ring on my left hand ring finger every day. Occasionally I'll wear a necklace.
Job: My job title might be receptionist, but I do many jobs at my full-time job. And I work part-time at P*tsM*rt
K
Kids: 12 year old boy/girl twins
Keep a journal? This blog is the closest I come to one
L
Longest car ride? California to Colorado and I've done it many times now. 14-17 hours. Piece of cake.
Love: I give and receive it every day. Wouldn't trade that for the world.
Laughed so hard you cried: So many times, particularly when my best friends and/or sisters are involved
Love at first sight? I've never felt it, but I am told it's what happened when Shell first saw me.
M
Milk flavor: chocolate
Movie: Moulin Rouge
Mooned anyone? no
Marriage? someday...
Motion sickness? thankfully, no
N
Number of siblings: I have twin sisters who are 3 1/2 years younger than me
Number of piercings: 2 in each ear
Number: don't have one
O
Overused phrases: right?
One wish: no more credit card debt
One phobia: heights
P
Place you'd like to live: Northern California
Pepsi or coke? pepsi
Q
Quail? cute bird, wouldn't eat it
R
Reason to cry: teen suicides due to bullying
Reality tv? not if I can help it
Radio station: The Mountain (Classic Rock)
Roll your tongue in a circle? I can
S
Song? Come What May
Sushi? haven't had it
Skipped school? I didn't do this very often, as school was where my friends were at and where I'd prefer to be.
Slept outside? I have, mainly in a tent
Seen a dead body? yes
Skinny dipped? yes
Shower daily? not always
Sing well? I used to be better when I practiced. I'm okay now.
Sing in the shower? never
Swear? I do, but not a lot
Strawberries or blueberries? strawberries
Scientists need to invent a cure for cancer
T
Time for bed: I used to be in bed by 11. Now it's usally between midnight and one.
Thunderstorms? LOVE LOVE LOVE THEM!
U
Unpredictable? depends on who you ask
Under the influence: very very rarely, and then only due to alcohol
V
Vegetable you hate: beets
Vegetable you love: asparagus
Vacation spot: I'd love to go to Hawaii
W
Weakness: food
Which one of your friends acts the most like you? no one that I can think of
Who makes you laugh the most? My boy
Worst feeling: that I'm not a good mom
Wanted to be a model? I've wanted to be what it takes to be a model, but no real modeling desire
Where do we go when we die? my body will be cremated and the disposition of the ashes will be up to my children. End of story.
Worst weather: really windy or very hot
Walk with a book on your head? I used to be able to.
X
X-rays? Just dental xrays and ultrasounds while pregnant
Y
Yellow: my daughter's favorite color. She is very yellow as well.
Z
Zoo animals: My favorite are the Przewalski's horses
Zodiac sign? I'm a Taurus
A.
Age: 36
Annoyance: blissful ignorance
Allergic: maybe. windy days do a number on my sinuses
Animal: I love dogs
Actor: Johnny Depp/ Halle Berry
B
Beer: gross. I've NEVER tasted a beer that I enjoyed.
Best Friend: Eric. It's been 21 years that we've been friends. That's a lot of life we've been through with each other!
Best feeling in the world: snuggling with my wife and kids watching a movie
Best weather: the turning of the season just as the summer temps start to come down but before fall's cold nights start. Highs in the 80's are perfect
Been in love? fiercely
Been bitched out? oh yeah
Been on stage? yep. Choir concerts, talent show, singing solo.
Believe in life on other planets? I do believe there is "life" on other planets. I'm not so sure about that life manifesting in the form of aliens.
Believe in miracles? no
Believe in magic? somewhat
Believe in God? no
Believe in Satan? no
Believe in ghosts? yes
C
Car: I have an '04 Nissan Sentra.
Candy: sometimes, but it must be chocolate or I'm probably not very interested
Color: many shades of green
Cried in school? I don't remember
Chinese or Mexican food? Seriously, these are my two favorite types of food. I can't pick just one. I'd totally eat egg rolls and tacos in the same meal if I could...
Cake or pie? pie. the only kinds of cake I like are ice cream cakes and boston cream pie, which is technically cake.
Countries to visit: I'd love to see Australia for me, and I'd love to take Shell to France.
D
Day or night? Hmm, I'm more awake and productive during the day, but I do enjoy nighttime activities...
Dream vehicle: I don't dream about vehicles.
Dance in the rain? I would, but I don't think I have.
Dance in the middle of the street? I'm sure I haven't done this.
E
Eggs? Oh yes, I like eggs in many forms, but NEVER raw!
Eyes: I'm a fan of eyes. If the question is the color of eyes, I don't have a preference.
Everyone has a past.
Ever failed a class? yes, second semester of Algebra II. I was so lost.
F
First crush: my neighbor
First thought waking up: should I hit snooze?
Food: I'm quite the fan.
G
Greatest fear: outliving my kids
Gum: sugarless
Get along with parents? usually, but not on speaking terms currently with my mom
Good luck charms: I don't believe in them
H
Hair color: natural is brown, but it's colored with blonde and light brown righ now
Height: 5'7 1/2"
Happy? mostly
Holidays? I like my birthday
Health freak? sometimes I wish I was because I am far from it in reality
I
Ice cream: Oh god yes! I LOVE ice cream. Mocha Almond Fudge is my favorite!
Instrument: Can't play any
J
Jewelry: I wear the ring on my left hand ring finger every day. Occasionally I'll wear a necklace.
Job: My job title might be receptionist, but I do many jobs at my full-time job. And I work part-time at P*tsM*rt
K
Kids: 12 year old boy/girl twins
Keep a journal? This blog is the closest I come to one
L
Longest car ride? California to Colorado and I've done it many times now. 14-17 hours. Piece of cake.
Love: I give and receive it every day. Wouldn't trade that for the world.
Laughed so hard you cried: So many times, particularly when my best friends and/or sisters are involved
Love at first sight? I've never felt it, but I am told it's what happened when Shell first saw me.
M
Milk flavor: chocolate
Movie: Moulin Rouge
Mooned anyone? no
Marriage? someday...
Motion sickness? thankfully, no
N
Number of siblings: I have twin sisters who are 3 1/2 years younger than me
Number of piercings: 2 in each ear
Number: don't have one
O
Overused phrases: right?
One wish: no more credit card debt
One phobia: heights
P
Place you'd like to live: Northern California
Pepsi or coke? pepsi
Q
Quail? cute bird, wouldn't eat it
R
Reason to cry: teen suicides due to bullying
Reality tv? not if I can help it
Radio station: The Mountain (Classic Rock)
Roll your tongue in a circle? I can
S
Song? Come What May
Sushi? haven't had it
Skipped school? I didn't do this very often, as school was where my friends were at and where I'd prefer to be.
Slept outside? I have, mainly in a tent
Seen a dead body? yes
Skinny dipped? yes
Shower daily? not always
Sing well? I used to be better when I practiced. I'm okay now.
Sing in the shower? never
Swear? I do, but not a lot
Strawberries or blueberries? strawberries
Scientists need to invent a cure for cancer
T
Time for bed: I used to be in bed by 11. Now it's usally between midnight and one.
Thunderstorms? LOVE LOVE LOVE THEM!
U
Unpredictable? depends on who you ask
Under the influence: very very rarely, and then only due to alcohol
V
Vegetable you hate: beets
Vegetable you love: asparagus
Vacation spot: I'd love to go to Hawaii
W
Weakness: food
Which one of your friends acts the most like you? no one that I can think of
Who makes you laugh the most? My boy
Worst feeling: that I'm not a good mom
Wanted to be a model? I've wanted to be what it takes to be a model, but no real modeling desire
Where do we go when we die? my body will be cremated and the disposition of the ashes will be up to my children. End of story.
Worst weather: really windy or very hot
Walk with a book on your head? I used to be able to.
X
X-rays? Just dental xrays and ultrasounds while pregnant
Y
Yellow: my daughter's favorite color. She is very yellow as well.
Z
Zoo animals: My favorite are the Przewalski's horses
Zodiac sign? I'm a Taurus
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Opposites Attract!
Soooooo......only one question so far. I hope there will be others!
B asked: How are you and Shell alike and different?
Shell and I have many more differences than similarities actually. It's kind of a wonder how we're still together because of the vast imbalance, but I think that is a testament to the biggest similarity of all...the way we love each other. This may sound cheesy and over the top, so be prepared. Even back when we were just friends and not yet a couple, we were together whenever possible. And we were affectionate. LOTS of hugging and leaning on each other, if we were standing together she'd throw her arm around me and keep it there. All of that continued once we were official, and other than holding hands it probably didn't look much different to our friends. When we were alone however, we couldn't get close enough. And that has pretty much stayed the same. When we're watching TV or a movie, I sit back and she lays on my chest. When we go to bed, I spoon her. We tell each other "I love you" before we end EVERY phone call with each other (unless we're arguing about something). We miss each other when we're apart. Now, this all could partly be a result of her working graveyard shifts for the last 12 years, so we only go to bed with each other two nights a week, but I think it's also just how we are. And I believe that the fierce and passionate way that we love each other is how we have dealt with the many adversities and problems that we have over the years. And how we deal with:
B asked: How are you and Shell alike and different?
Shell and I have many more differences than similarities actually. It's kind of a wonder how we're still together because of the vast imbalance, but I think that is a testament to the biggest similarity of all...the way we love each other. This may sound cheesy and over the top, so be prepared. Even back when we were just friends and not yet a couple, we were together whenever possible. And we were affectionate. LOTS of hugging and leaning on each other, if we were standing together she'd throw her arm around me and keep it there. All of that continued once we were official, and other than holding hands it probably didn't look much different to our friends. When we were alone however, we couldn't get close enough. And that has pretty much stayed the same. When we're watching TV or a movie, I sit back and she lays on my chest. When we go to bed, I spoon her. We tell each other "I love you" before we end EVERY phone call with each other (unless we're arguing about something). We miss each other when we're apart. Now, this all could partly be a result of her working graveyard shifts for the last 12 years, so we only go to bed with each other two nights a week, but I think it's also just how we are. And I believe that the fierce and passionate way that we love each other is how we have dealt with the many adversities and problems that we have over the years. And how we deal with:
- she LOVES trashy television, soap operas, and reality shows. The Real Housewives of (wherever), Keeping up with the Kardashians, Fashion Police, The Dish, any after-awards show fashion recaps, etc... Our DVR is full of them and I can't stand them.
- she LOVES country music and I can tolerate the more mainstream artists like Taylor Swift, Lady Antebellum, Sugarland. We agree on many pop artists, but she is not at all a fan of classic rock which I love like The Beatles, Rolling Stones, Fleetwood Mac, Elton John, etc.
- our approach to arguments are polar opposite. She want to deal with the conflict, get it out however necessary even if it means we're yelling to do so. I prefer to avoid conflicts, even if that means it doesn't get resolved. This is probably our hardest difference to deal with.
- she LOVES to shop, especially for clothes. I very much do not.
- she could eat pizza every day and be happy. I don't mind pizza, but she only likes 3 toppings. Ever. Pepperoni, sausage, black olives. That's it. I like lots of different things. We never share a pizza for this exact reason.
- she is always cold, I am usually hot. During the winter, her side of the bed has 2-3 blankets plus the sheet, mine has the sheet and 1 blanket.
- She doesn't like chocolate. Need I say more??
Seriously, I could go on for a while. It really is a wonder how we stay together, but we do. That's how we know that with all our differences and the hard stuff we've had to deal with, we are meant to be together.
Thanks for the question. Now who's next??
Monday, November 8, 2010
Taking Questions...
Luckily at 8 days in I'm not completely out of ideas for posts, but as it could happen any day I thought I'd be prepared. I found a great resource for random things to post about and will use some of them I'm sure. But for now, I thought I'd reach out to you who read this blog (and whom I'm amazed every day keep coming back for more). So, what would you like to know about me? I'm open to sharing pretty much anything, other than my address, phone number and my kids names. Ask away!
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